This one needs to be at the top of the list, because it is the main thing that has kept me going.
“Don’t cry because it’s over, smile because it happened.”
― Dr. Seuss
I have thousands, perhaps millions, of wonderful memories, that happened as a direct result of knowing Janet. I am frequently reminded that she is gone. Sometimes in ways that is like a knife through the heart, which would crush me if I could not quickly reflect on that extensive list of wonderful memories.
Each person has to find their own way, but I certainly recommend this as a tool for my many friends that have also lost loved ones. Often in far worse situations than mine. May the force be with you.
I will try to arrange the rest of the quotes according to the order of, ‘my favorites at the top of the list.’ But as the list grows, it will become harder and harder to do that. And, just as I have many foods that I like for different reasons. Which make it hard for me to say which of these is my favorite. It will frequently be difficult for me to say which of the quotes is my favorite. It is certainly not a linear process. And, sometimes I will group quotes that I think of as being related, together. Feel free to wonder why in the world that I think those were related and not some of the others. Different strokes for different folks.
In addition, my favorites are not likely to be your favorites. I invite you to look over the list and enjoy any that you like.
“Life is hard. But it is harder when you’re dumb.” This has been attributed to many people over many years, and has various wordings. But you get the idea. I use this frequently when I believe that I have goofed.
“You come much closer to getting what you expect out of life, than what you want.” So, I suggest that you try to expect what you want. That may seem at odds with the, “… harder when you’re dumb.” But, in my mind, I keep hoping that I am learning. In fact, I prefer the idea of considering these things learning experiences, rather than mistakes, or problems.
I certainly have had to repeat the class on some of my learning experiences. I have no idea how many times I’ve repeated the class of, “If it ain’t broke, don’t fix it.” But I think I am better at it. In years past I had many times that something would be working, but I thought I could make it work even better if I would just a just XYZ. And then, you guessed it, I would break it and it didn’t work at all.
My take on this at this moment is that, you need to consider the alternatives carefully. I think that there is an optimum region, somewhere between, tinker with it all the time, and never touch anything. I tried hard to calculate the risk reward ratio, and I believe I’m getting better at it.
Do you know the words to “Hotel California”?
’relax,’ said the night man,
We are programmed to receive.
You can checkout any time you like,
But you can never leave!
That concept has been often mentioned at times when we got stuck somewhere longer that we planned. But, we have always gotten away eventually.
And, I was just told that some friends have stayed at the actual Hotel California that inspired the song. It is in Baja California, Mexico, but they escaped to tell the tale to me in Turkey.